• Barbara Blanco

3 Tips to Build a Strong Bond with your Child

Updated: Mar 2, 2019


When was the last time you went for a long walk with your family? When was the last time you played with your child? When was the last time you talked to your child? Without thinking about all the things you had to do next or being on your phone at the same time?

I know. Life moves so fast.


The truth is that it's simpler than you think, we just have to be present. However, that doesn't mean it's always easy to include into our busy schedule. We can find a special moment and start a tradition, like 'family day' or 'mummy/dad date' to strengthen the relationship with our kids. They need quality of time to feel safe and loved.

What does family mean to you? When I think about its definition, the word connection comes to my mind. I think it is safe to say that feeling connected is essential. Think about an instant with your child that made your heart melt. Here are some tips to experience more of those moments:

1. Be present.

The quality of time spent makes a difference in your relationship. I am talking about being really there for your child. So, turn off technology!

This space involves quality of time because you are paying full attention to your child. As well as knowing their inner world, you can invite your child into yours.

You can create a special activity for you and your child, something that can be done every day.

2. Play with your children.

Find something to do together and spend a longer period of time with your child. When you are focusing on spending time, the connection comes.

The activities may be: playing a game, taking a long walk, cooking, making popcorn and watching a movie, learning to play an instrument, solving a mystery together, searching animals or insects in the park...

3. Welcome emotions and listen carefully.

We need to welcome the emotions in a positive and attentive way. They are the language of our needs and wants. Eye contact, hugs and holding hands are gestures that help.

Taking the time to listen to your child shows that you love them more than anything else you can say or do.

Many parents ask me how can they communicate with their child and my answer is always the same: listen well and encourage them to listen. It is essential to care about your child and what goes around them. Good communication always starts with good listening. We need to give children the opportunity to express themselves. Try to adapt your language and respect their pace of talking.